2021 · community · consulting · education · friday feels

Friday Feels #7

Hello HQ-ers,

It’s been a crazy busy week here at CSHQ and I HAVE to share why with you!

I was the victim of a crime a few years ago and through official referral went on two programmes to aid my recovery and mental well-being.
I found it brilliant yet I found some flaws that didn’t sit right with me.

It kept niggling at me for years then over the last few months I had an epiphany:

I’m a qualified tutor!

So after the pandemic hit, and I’d graduated from University, the live comedy stopped and I started job-hunting. The job search proved to be fruitless, I thought right, you won’t employ me? Screw you! Your loss I’ll employ MYSELF!

I have been working all week creating content loosely based on those 2 programmes but:

  • Accessible to all
  • No official referral needed
  • Suitable for all situations not just that specific situation the original training I did pertained to.

Basically, I’m here creating course content on the principles of empathy and supporting others, while providing strategies of coping methods and mindset shifting to build confidence and assertion.
My aims are to raise awareness of the impact on each of us within mis-aligned interpersonal relationships and to provide tools that encourage safer and more informed choices in our lives going forward.

For more information, click HERE

Have a fabulous weekend!

2021 · blogging101 · daily · education · everyday inspiration

Everyday Inspiration: Day 7

Today’s lesson provides five Tweets as a blog post prompt. The idea is to choose one that elicits a response. I’m not on Twitter anymore nor do I intend to return to it, however this is the tweet I chose from the lesson:

Koh’s tweet is very simple yet incredibly powerful.

We’ve all wondered why certain things are taught in schools when other things aren’t. There’s so many memes and posts that state as much. Here is a great example:

Original Credit: Unknown

Whilst I can’t be 100% certain of the original context Koh tweeted that post, my take on it is that you can be academic but not streetwise or you can be resourceful in many ways, yet not academic.

Original credit unknown. Found via Google Search: Pinterest.com/themetapicture

In the U.K. the Curriculum hasn’t evolved much from when I left school to now as I watch my son homeschooling. Yes the tasks are more relevant and fun than what I remember and are certainly more engaging. Yet still I wonder if English is a core subject, why aren’t we learning in school how to write a CV and cover letter? Maths is a core subject, why aren’t we learning basic book-keeping and budgeting/bill management in school? Science is a core subject so why aren’t we learning about reducing our carbon footprint for example.

PSHE/PSE, Science and Religious Studies touch on Reproduction and Sexual Education yet don’t touch on subjects like all forms of contraception, dealing with emotions, how to protect yourself from Domestic Abuse, how much weddings cost, the implications of divorce…

Geography doesn’t touch on entry requirements to other lands, vaccinations needed in certain countries, currency converting. Even booking a holiday, applying for passports etc. All that are things we do as adults that we never learned to do as young people. Why doesn’t PE cover eating disorders and body dysmorphia? Why doesn’t Home Economics & Food cover household matters, menu planning, shopping and budget?

For a minimum of 13 years, you’re in school and when you leave what have you really learned? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below

Thanks for reading!


Missed opportunity or Blessing in disguise?

Warning: It’s a long one!

I look at my 12 year old and I love watching him learn, helping him understand, encouraging him to try his best when suddenly, I’m hurled back in my minds eye to being his age.

I remember the influences I had growing up, those who cared, those who didn’t.

I remember mostly draconian teachers, all the school bullies, the countless times I was promised “dad will help you with your maths homework after dinner” just to eat dinner and wait for dad who’d ask “what do you need to do?”

I’d look at him wide-eyed, jubilant!

Finally, some time with dad… just for him to say “work it out yourself.”

Well if I knew how to work it out, I wouldn’t be asking for help now, would I?

And typical teenager me, would say “forget it” and stomp off to my room frustrated with GCSE maths which may as well have been Heiroglyphic writing.

To be honest, I’d probably have understood hieroglyphs better!

In just a few years, my 12 year old will be studying for his GCSE’s. He will be using whatever careers advice services are in place in his school just like I did.

The difference is, he’s going into it sort of knowing what he’d like to do one day and he has a realistic back-up in case he doesn’t make it.

I haven’t pushed him, I just knew if he was going to stand any chance of leaving education with any career goal he needed a lot more positive input than I was ever afforded.

I’ll give you an example of a conversation with him when he was 5:

Son: mummy, I’m going to be a racing driver

Me: (I know how much this costs, God help me) oh right, well you’ll be a really good racing driver if you learn to like the loud engine noises

Son: can I have a quiet engine?

Me: I’m not sure, but if you be really good in school and learn maths and science and design especially, one day you could build one!

Son: I like maths

Me: You certainly didn’t get that from me

A couple of years later…

Son: mum, do you think I could win the Monaco GP?

Me: with the right training and car I probably could! Listen mate, I’m not going to say yes or no because no one knows what the future holds.

Realistically, your fear of loud noises has stopped you practicing in Go-Karts but it’s ok. It doesn’t mean it’s too late. The best advice I can give you is if you want to do something that badly but for whatever reason you can’t? Do the next best thing to it…

Without the financial backing to enrol him into competitions where he could indeed find a way into F1, let’s face it: it’s not going to happen.

But there’s nothing stopping him now, getting good enough grades to progress onto mechanical engineering.

There’s nothing stopping him now to get his head down, and become qualified and experienced enough to apply to F1 teams to become part of their team.

Even if you’re given an apprenticeship or internship that’s a way in where you can be part of something you adore. You may not be the next Sebastian Vettel (his hero) but you could be part of the next generation of F1 in some capacity.

Will you win the Monaco GP?

Maybe not directly, maybe not at all or maybe the next time you’re in Monte Carlo you’ll not be the 7 year old in a taxi with your mum who negotiated with a fabulous taxi driver that was willing to drive the circuit in a possibly-maybe-very-slightlyover-thespeedlimitty way whilst pretending to race and declaring you the winner.

And when you get there, don’t forget your ol’ mum!